Reblogged from art-or-porn
 - Domestic BDSM… ( 5 Spankopera posts to go.. )
Above : a dead-ringer for the very first sub I’d met. She was finally visiting Melbourne from Sydney, after we’d chatting a few months online, slowly identifying her erotic boundaries, and finding ways she could be pushed from afar. Even remotely, this was fun - and as each new task became more explicit, she responded in a determined manner.. despite how strange or threatened she said each task made her feel. Within 3 hours of our first drinks (including a drink at one venue, where I cuffed her hands behind her back, but had her jacket around her so no-one could see she was cuffed, playing with touching and exposing her nipples briefly.. ) we were back at her hotel room… and with the cuffs and some rope, exploring her spanking and leather belt thresholds… . From memory she’d had 5 orgasms before the sun came up. As I’d desired, I’d refrained from orgasm that night.. part of the reason the night was filled with a relentless sexual tension..
Below via simply-black-and-white .. reminds of another post-online encounter. On our second meeting, she answered her door in something close to a maid’s outfit, and no underwear, presenting me with a blindfold upon entry. It’s a delight to juxtapose the domestic surrounds of an everyday lounge room, with a woman tied and blindfolded, on hands and knees in the middle of it… and we stayed there for quite a while, before eventually moving into the bedroom which looked much like the photo below.
Via bound-love, another reminder of the joys of improvisation - adapting to the environment at hand, being present in a space, and savouring the way it becomes charged when someone is experiencing a heightened reality in the middle of it. Placing someone in such a way that they can be walked around, or touched, fucked, licked, spanked… from any angle… keeping them utterly at edge, wondering what will happen next, and from where…
Via trussed, the winning combination of ropes and vibrator. I like to keep a sub constantly stimulated, but not necessarily orgasming. This can include being tied spreadlegged, and positioned in front of a laptop screen displaying porn and playing moans into the sub’s headphones… while she is spanked, or belted .. or just left lieing or kneeling there for as long as I decide. These hitachis are powerful beasts though, and usually I find I have to keep switching them off and on periodically, to keep a sub at her optimum of very aroused, but not yet cumming…
Inventive coffee table use - via mirrormaskcamera. I’m very fond of this photo, have never used a table in that way, but love both the improvisation and the stockinged end result. How much rope do we have? What can we attach your limbs to? Ok, let’s do this…
And a final vaguely furniture related meditation via thinkandkink - this looks like a delicious scenario for erotic taunting and teasing, so exposed and vulnerable, yet with enough comfort that she could be left there for a long time… I’d enjoying - after perhaps some light flogging… and just enough pussy licking for her to crave more - to stand next to that bed, talking very closely into her ear about what I was considering doing… while at the same time, moving one foot to slowly drag the bottom of the bed out a little further from the wall… playing with her sense of safety, and lack of control.. spreadlegged, blindfolded and feeling her body moved uncontrollably… A rope attached to the head end of the bed, would allow that process to be repeated as many times as desired..
And that mattress photo came with this relevant quote c/- erospainter:
“Intimacy is based on shared vulnerability…nothing deepens intimacy like the experiences that we share when we feel flayed, with our skins off, scared and vulnerable, and our partner is there with us, willing to share in the scary stuff”
- From The Ethical Slut by Dossie Easton, Catherine A. Liszt
It’s a quote which especially resonates with BDSM in a domestic setting.. a lot of trust is both needed and built-up by choosing to explore like this with someone. It can be quite a strong bond… there can be a lot of sexual connection in there too, but separate to that, on some basic level, by co-embracing some unknown path, two explorers tend to come out the other end closer than before…